BUILDING STRONG FAMILIES

SCRIPTURE LESSON GEN. 2 : 18 - 25

IF YOU ARE GOING TO BUILD A STRONG FAMILY, YOU HAVE TO USE THE PATTERN THAT IS SET IN THE BIBLE BY NONE OTHER THAN YOUR CREATOR

CHURCH WE HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO ESTABLISH AND MAINTAIN A PROPER RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHER MEMBERS OF THE CHURCH AND ESPECIALLY OUR OWN FAMILY.

NEVER HAS THERE EVER BEEN A GREATER NEED FOR GOD’S CHURCH TO STEP UP TO THE PLATE AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE FAMILY

TODAY THE FAMILY IS UNDER ATTACK BY THE WORLD, AND NOW THEY ARE SAYING THAT A HOMOSEXUAL COUPLE IS A FAMILY

CHURCH WE MUST CHANGE OUR THINKING, AND START THINKING LIKE THE LORD WANT HIS CHILDREN TO THINK

IT IS ESTIMATED THAT AN AVERAGE THREE OUT OF FIVE MARRIAGES IN AMERICA END IN DIVORCE, AND THIS TREND IS IN THE CHURCH

WHY DO YOU THINK SO MANY MEN ARE NOT ABLE TO MEET GOD’S QUALIFICATIONS FOR ELDERS AND DEACONS, MARRIAGE IS MOST OF THE PROBLEM, AND THE SECOND PART IS THE LACK OF A MAN TO HAVE ENOUGH INTEREST IN DONG THE WORK OF THE LORD, HE WILL NOT STUDY TO MEET THE QUALIFICATIONS.

GOD IS LOOKING FOR MEN THAT ARE MEN THAT ARE WILLING TO TELL THEIR WIVES, TO STAY OUT OF AREAS OF CHURCH BUSINESS THEY HAVE NO BUSINESS IN

IF YOU ARE GOING TO BE A MAN, BE A MAN AND STOP LETTING YOUR WIFE RUN YOU

GOD HAS ALWAYS REQUIRES SUBMISSION IN MARRIAGE, AND IT IS STILL REQUIRED TODAY

GOD IS THE HEAD OF CHRIST, AND CHRIST IS THE HEAD OF MAN, AND MAN IS THE HEAD OF WOMAN 1 COR. 11:3

THERE IS NO ORGANISM OR ORGANIZATION THAT DOES NOT HAVE SOME KIND OF RANK OR LEADERSHIP

THE LEADERSHIP THAT GOD HAS PUT IN PLACE WILL MAKE THE HOME AND THE CHURCH RUN LIKE A WELL OILED MACHINE

BUT WHEN THINGS ARE OUT OF PLACE, THE CHURCH NOR THE HOME WILL RUN LIKE GOD PLANNED IT

ALL YOU WILL HAVE IS A VERY STRESSFUL SITUATION, AND TROUBLE IN THE HOME FROM DAY ONE

IF A WOMAN IS NOT WILLING TO SUBMIT TO A MAN AND ESPECIALLY THE MAN SHE SAYS SHE LOVE, SHE IS A LIAR, SHE DOES NOT LOVE THAT MAN, AND MAN, YOU BETTER HAVE ENOUGH SENSE NOT TO MARRY THAT WOMAN.

WHEN YOU ARE COURTING, HOW CAN YOU TELL SHE WANTS TO BE THE LEADER OF THE FAMILY?  IF SHE WANTS TO MAKE ALL OF THE DECISIONS, YOU HAD BETTER LEAVE THAT WOMAN ALONE!

IN THE CHURCH AND THE FAMILY SOMEONE MUST PROVIDE SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP OTHERWISE THERE WILL BE CONFUSION, FALSE TEACHING, AND CHAOS

IN BUSINESS, SCHOOLS, CLUBS, ALL GROUP ACTIVITIES, SOMEONE MUST LEAD IN ORDER TO ACCOMPLISH THE UNITY AND SUCCESS IN THEIR ENDEAVORS

THIS SAME PRINCIPLE IS APPLICABLE TO THE HOME

GOD HAS ALWAYS REQUIRED DISCIPLINE IN ANY ACTIVITY HE IS INVOLVED IN, GOD IS NOT THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION

TODAY WE WANT TO DISCUSS THREE TYPES OF HOMES THAT ARE MOST COMMON TODAY AND THE LESSON IS YOURS

POINT ONE, YOU HAVE THE FATHER DOMINANT HOME

POINT TWO, YOU HAVE THE MOTHER DOMINANT HOME

POINT THREE, YOU HAVE THE FATHER LED HOME

FIRST LET’S TAKE A LOOK AT THE FATHER DOMINANT HOME, DOES IT MEET THE BIBLE STANDARD FOR WHAT GOD IS CALLING FOR.

BUT BEFORE WE DO THAT, LET’S DEFINE THE FAMILY BIBLICALLY

FAMILY IS A PERMANENT HUMAN COMMUNITY THAT ONE ENTERS BY BIRTH, THE COVENANT OF MARRIAGE OR ADOPTION.

THE SIMPLEST AND SMALLEST FAMILY UNIT WAS THE ADAM AND EVE COVENANT, THROUGH WHICH PERSONS NOT ACTUALLY “NEXT OF KIN” BECAME CLOSEST RELATIVES.

THIS IS THE MEANING OF ADAM’S POETIC AND PRAISE-FULL OUTBURST “THIS IS NOW BONE OF MY BONES AND FLESH OF MY FLESH” (GENESIS 2:24).

WHILE ADAM AND EVE WERE COMMANDED TO “BE FRUITFUL AND INCREASE IN NUMBER” (GENESIS 1:28), THEY WERE A GOD DESIGNED COMMUNITY EVEN BEFORE EVE BROUGHT FORTH HER FIRST CHILD EVEN A CHILDLESS COUPLE HUSBAND AND WIFE IS A CORE FAMILY, AT THE HEART OF THE FAMILY EXPERIENCE ARE A MAN, A WOMAN AND CHILD;

THIS MAKES A SERIOUS STATEMENT AGAINST  SAME-SEX COUPLE IT TELL ME THEY CAN NEVER BE A TRUE “FAMILY” IN A DIVINELY APPROVED WAY FAMILY IS MARKED BY COVENANT, THAT BINDING PERSONAL AGREEMENT BY WHICH A MAN AND WOMAN BELONG TO EACH OTHER “FOR BETTER, FOR WORSE” (SEE MARRIAGE).

A COVENANT COMMUNICATES THE RELATIONAL GENIUS OF FAMILY: EACH LIVES FOR THE OTHER AND ALL LIVE FOR THE ONE.

THERE IS SOMETHING LIKE AN UNLIMITED LIABILITY TOWARD ONE ANOTHER IN A FAMILY.

WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT PREACHER, AN UNLIMITED LIABILITY POLICY IN THE INSURANCE BUSINESS MEANS THAT THERE IS NOTHING THAT CAN HAPPEN THAT IS NOT COVERED

THAT IS THE SAME PRINCIPAL WE NEED TO BE LOOKING AT IN MARRIAGE

THIS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND BELONGING EXTENDS TO OUR PARENTS EVEN WHEN WE “LEAVE” THEM TO “CLEAVE” TO OUR SPOUSE (GENESIS 2:24);

THE NEW CORE FAMILY IS PRIORITIZED OVER THE EXTENDED FAMILY.

IN OTHER WORDS, HUSBAND AND WIFE IS FIRST, THEN THE REST COMES LATER

EVEN THOUGH WE HAVE LEFT FATHER AND MOTHER, WE DO NOT DIVORCE OUR SIBLINGS AND PARENTS.

WE CANNOT! WHEN WE HAVE CHILDREN, WE EXTEND THE COVENANT BELONGING TO THEM UNILATERALLY, THAT MEANS THAT THEY ARE AUTOMATICALLY COVERED EVEN BEFORE THEY CAN RESPOND.

BUT THAT COVENANT BECOMES BILATERAL WHEN CHILDREN ARE ABLE TO RECIPROCATE THAT MEANS CHILDREN HELP CHILDREN, AND CHILDREN HELP PARENTS.

GOD NEVER EXPECTED YOU TO TAKE CARE OF A GROWN CHILD

THERE ARE THEOLOGICAL REASONS FOR RESTRICTING THE IDEA OF FAMILY TO THE COVENANT COMMUNITY.

FIRST, IN THE BIBLE THE FIRST COMMUNITY ON EARTH WAS THE FAMILY, PREDATING THE CHURCH OR THE NATION.

FAMILY IS NOT A HUMAN INVENTION BUT A DIVINE CREATION,

A MATTER OF VOCATION OR CALLING RATHER THAN CONVENIENCE AND HUMAN CHOICE.

SECOND, GOD IS FAMILY. GOD EXISTS COMMUNALLY AS A TRIUNE GOD

MARKED BY COVENANT LOVE (JOHN 17:1) IN WHICH EACH PERSON IS FOR THE OTHER AND ALL FOR THE ONE.

GOD IS A FAMILY GOD.

THUS EVERY FAMILY IN HEAVEN AND ON EARTH DERIVES ITS NATURE AND DIGNITY FROM GOD AS FAMILY (EPHES. 3:14-15).

GOD DESIGNS THE FAMILY AND IT’S MEMBERS SO THE HUMAN FAMILY IS A COMMENTARY ON GOD

THE FAMILY SHOULD BE EXPOUNDING SOMETHING ABOUT THE GOD WHOSE IMAGE WE REFLECT (GENESIS 1:26).

THIRD, OLD TESTAMENT LEGISLATION DEALT WITH FAMILY-PLUS-LAND UNITS, AS IS GRAPHICALLY ILLUSTRATED BY THE STORY OF RUTH.

THESE FAMILIES WERE MORE LIKE WHAT WE WOULD CALL CLANS OR EXTENDED FAMILIES AND CONSTITUTED THE BASIC SOCIAL, KINSHIP, LEGAL AND RELIGIOUS STRUCTURES OF THE PEOPLE OF GOD.

GOD ULTIMATELY OWNED THE LAND BUT ENTRUSTED IT TO FAMILIES, TO WHOM IT WOULD BE RETURNED IN THE YEAR OF JUBILEE (LEVITICUS 25:4-18).

FOURTH, EVEN UNDER THE NEW COVENANT, WHERE THE PEOPLE OF GOD ARE NOT CALLED TO CONSTRUCT A HOLY NATION, GOD CONTINUES TO WORK THROUGH FAMILIES.

GOD’S KINGDOM WORKS THROUGH FAMILIES AS WHOLE HOUSEHOLDS (INCLUDING SERVANTS AND RESIDENT ALIENS) BECOME CHRISTIANS (ACTS 16:32-33).

SPOUSES ARE SANCTIFIED BY THEIR BELIEVING PARTNER (1 COR. 7:14), AND CHILDREN GROW UP IN THE NURTURE AND ADMONITION OF THE LORD (EPHES. 6:1-4).

CHURCH LEADERS ARE EXPECTED TO PROVE THEIR MINISTRY FIRST AT HOME (1 TIM. 3:4-5).

SO WE MAY SPEAK OF THE FAMILY AS A DOMESTIC CHURCH, THE BASIC ECCLESIAL UNIT.

NOW THAT IS THE WAY A GOD LEAD HOME SHOULD FUNCTION, NOW LET’S LOOK AT A FATHER DOMINANT HOME AND SEE HOW IT FUNCTIONS

WHAT DOES THE WORD DOMINANT MEAN – IT MEANS COMMANDING, CONTROLLING, OR PREVAILING OVER ALL OTHERS

OVERLOOKING AND COMMANDING FROM A SUPERIOR POSITION

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN TO THE EYE DOCTOR, AND HE TOLD YOU THAT YOUR ARE RIGHT EYE DOMINANT OR LEFT EYE DOMINANT, THAT SIMPLY MEANS THAT ONE OF A PAIR OF YOUR EYES IS STRONGER THAN THE OTHER THAT IS ONE IS MORE EFFECTIVE OR PREDOMINANT IN ACTION

IT ALSO MEANS SUPERIOR TO ALL OTHERS IN POWER, INFLUENCE, OR IMPORTANCE

NOW THAT IS THE WAY A FATHER DOMINANT HOME IS RAN

THE FATHER IS HARSH, AUTOCRATIC, AND LACKING IN RELATIONAL SKILLS

THE WIFE IS WARM, COMPLIANT, FEARFUL, FRUSTRATED AND LONELY

CHILDREN USUALLY LACK RELATIONAL SKILLS, AND HAVE A STRONG TENDENCY TOWARD VIOLENCE

THIS MAN IS IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING, AND NOTHING HAPPENS WITHOUT HIS HAND IN THE MIDDLE OF THE PIE

THIS IS NOT THE KIND OF HOME THAT GOD HAD DESIGNED FOR HIS PEOPLE

THE MAN OF GOD IS MUCH DIFFERENT THAT WHAT I HAVE JUST DESCRIBED

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE MASCULINE OR FEMININE?

OUR AGE IS STRUGGLING WITH ISSUES OF INTIMACY AND WE ARE LISTENING TO TALK SHOWS TO FIND ANSWERS

WE ARE DEVELOPING CULTURAL SUBSTITUTES FOR MASCULINE MEN AND FEMININE WOMEN

YOUNG MEN WHO’S FATHERS HAVE NOT TAUGHT THEM HOW TO BE LOVING HUSBANDS AND FATHERS IN THE HOME, STILL HAVE A NATURE, THEY HAVE A NEED TO EXPRESS THEIR MASCULINE POWER

IF THEIR MASCULINE POWER CANNOT BE EXPRESSED I THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP, IT WILL SEEK TO FIND EXPRESSIONS SOMEWHERE ELSE

THAT SOMEWHERE ELSE IS THE STREETS, WITH THE HOME BOYS

THAT IS WHY WE HAVE SO MUCH CRIME FROM YOUNG MEN, THINKING THAT IF THEY TAKE SOMEONE’S LIFE OR IF THEY GET SOME GIRL PREGNANT, THEY ARE REAL MEN

ALL THEY ARE DOING IS EXPRESSING SOMETHING IN THEM THAT TELL THEM THEY ARE MASCULINE, BUT IT IS DISTORTED

IT IS A WORLD STANDARD OF MASCULINE AND NOT A BIBLE STANDARD OF MASCULINE

IF YOU WANT TO SEE A REAL MAN, LOOK AT JESUS CHRIST

WELL YOU ASK HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT A MAN IS A REAL MAN

A MAN FEELS MASCULINE WHEN HE KNOWS THAT HIS WIFE SUPPORTS HIM

HIS WIFE RESPECTS HIM, HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN HONOR HIM,

THE WHOLE FAMILY THINKS POSITIVELY OF HIM

WHEN THESE THINGS HAPPEN A MAN FEELS HE IS MASCULINE AND THAT HE IS LOVED BY HIS FAMILY

LOVE, HONOR AND RESPECT MAKES A MAN FEEL MASCULINE

A WOMAN FEELS FEMININE WHEN SHE KNOWS THAT SHE IS LOVED, TAKEN CARE OF, PROTECTED, AND HONORED

SHE HAS A SENSE OF BELONGING WHICH MAKES HERE VULNERABLE, BUT SHE KNOWS THAT HER HUSBAND IS GOING TO BE THERE FOR HER, AND HE IS NOT GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HER

A WOMAN FEELS FEMININE WHEN SHE CAN INPUT IDEAS INTO THE CONVERSATION, AND KNOW THAT THEY WILL BE CONSIDERED, MAYBE NOT USED, BUT THEY ARE DISCUSSED, AND THEY ARE VALIDATED

A WOMAN FEELS FEMININE WHEN SHE KNOWS THAT HER HUSBAND THINKS SHE IS THE APPLE OF HIS EYE

UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, YOU DON’T PUT YOUR WIFE DOWN, AND THE SAME THING THE OTHER WAY AROUND, WIVES YOU DON’T PUT YOUR HUSBAND DOWN 1 PETER 5:7

WHEN A WOMAN DOES NOT GET THE LOVE RESPECT AND THE FEELING OF BEING FEMININE AT HOME, SHE WILL SEEK IT ELSEWHERE, AND IT CAN BE SEEN IN THE WAY SHE DRESS

SHE WILL TRY TO COMMAND THAT ATTENTION FROM OTHER MEN IN THE STREET

THAT IS WHY YOU SEE SO MANY WOMEN WITH ALMOST NOTHING ON, THEY ARE TRYING TO FEEL FEMININE BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT GETTING THE LOVE AND ATTENTION AT HOME

POINT TWO, THEN YOU HAVE THE MOTHER DOMINANT HOME

THERE IS NO PLACE IN THE BIBLE THAT GOD TOLD A WOMAN TO BE THE LEADER IN THE HOME

TAKE A LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN THE WOMAN IS IN CONTROL IN THE HOME

THE ENVIRONMENT IS SPIRITUALLY UNHEALTHY, PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY UNHEALTHY AS WELL, IT IS JUST NOT THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT TO BE IN

IN THIS MOTHER DOMINANT HOME,

REMEMBER THE DEFINITION OF THE WORD DOMINANT COMMANDING, CONTROLLING, OR PREVAILING OVER ALL OTHERS

OVERLOOKING AND COMMANDING FROM A SUPERIOR POSITION

THIS WOMAN IS IN CONTROL, AND WHEN SHE COMES TO CHURCH SHE STILL THINKS SHE IS NO CONTROL

NO MATTER WHERE SHE GOES, SHE THINKS SHE IS IN CONTROL, BECAUSE SHE IS IN THAT ATMOSPHERE IN HER HOME

WHATEVER ROLE YOU TAKE IN THE HOME, YOU WILL TAKE THAT SAME ROLE IN THE CHURCH

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT PREACHER, THE BIBLE TELL ME JUST EXACTLY THAT

WHEN YOU LOOK AT 1 TIM 3, THE BIBLE TELL US THAT IF A MAN DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO RUN HIS OWN HOME, HOW CAN HE RUN THE HOUSE OF THE LORD

IF YOU HAVE A MAN IN A MOTHER DOMINANT HOME, THAT MAN IS GOOD FOR NOTHING IN THE CHURCH

LADIES, IF YOU ARE THE MOTHER DOMINANT PERSON, YOU HAVE SOME SERIOUS PROBLEMS WITH THE LORD

YOU ARE OUT OF YOUR ROLE, AND YOU WILL HAVE TO STAND BEFORE THE LORD AND GIVE IN ACCOUNT FOR YOUR ACTIONS

IN THIS KIND OF HOME, WHAT DOES THE HUSBAND DO AND HOW DOES HE ACT

HE IS USUALLY A NICE GUY, HE IS USUALLY KIND, PASSIONATE AND INCOMPETENT

HE IS INCOMPETENT AT HOME, AND HE IS INCOMPETENT AT WORK

THEN HE BECOMES RESENTFUL OF OTHERS

WHAT ARE YOU SAYING PREACHER, HE DEVELOPS AN ATTITUDE BECAUSE OF THE SITUATION HE HAS TO LIVE IN

IF HE HAS A DAUGHTER, SHE US LACKING OF HER UNDERSTANDING OF THE FEMALE ROLE IN THE HOME, AND IF HE HAS A SON, HE IS LACKING OF HIS MASCULINE ROLE IN THE HOME

THE WHOLE PICTURE IS DISTORTED

IN THIS ENVIRONMENT THE WHOLE FAMILY PICTURE IS DISTORTED, THE CHILDREN ARE MIXED UP AS TO WHAT THEY SHOULD BE LIKE WHEN THEY GROW UP, THEY HAVE NO ROLE MODEL EXCEPT WHAT THEY SEE IN THE HOME

AND WHEN THEY GET GROWN, THEY WILL USUALLY TAKE ON THE SAME ATTRIBUTES OF THE PARENTS THEY WERE AROUND

WHAT ARE YOU SAYING PREACHER, IF A CHILD COMES OUT OF A FATHER DOMINANT HOME, HE WILL BE THE SAME WAY, OR IF A GIRL COMES FROM A MOTHER DOMINANT HOME, SHE WILL BE A THE DOMINATING PERSON IN HER HOME WHEN SHE GROWS UP

THEN PARENTS YOU WONDER WHY YOUR CHILDREN’S MARRIAGES ARE FAILING, THEY HAVE NO EXAMPLE TO FOLLOW

THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR, OR HOW TO ACT WHEN THEY GET MARRIED

THEY HAVE NOT BEEN TAUGHT HOW TO ACCEPT ONE ANOTHER

I DON’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE ANGRY WHEN ANOTHER PERSON DOES NOT LIVE UP TO MY EXPECTATIONS

CHURCH WE NEED TO LEARN TO LIVE WITH OTHER PEOPLE AND THE WAY THEY ARE AND NOT WHAT WE WANT TO MAKE THEM INTO

THEY SHOULD NOT BE A CONNECTION BETWEEN ANOTHER PERSON’S BEHAVIOR AND THE ANGER THAT IS WITHIN US

WE ALLOW OTHER PEOPLE TO PUSH OUR BUTTONS,

IN A MARRIAGE, WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND, THAT BUTTON PUNCHING IS NOT ALLOWED

TOO OFTEN WE ALLOW UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS TO SET US UP FOR A FALL

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS WILL DESTROY A MARRIAGE QUICKER THAN ANYTHING I KNOW OF

UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS SET US UP FOR DISAPPOINTMENT, HEARTBREAKS AND ALL KINDS OF HURT FEELINGS

CHURCH WE HAVE TO LEARN THAT OTHERS ARE GOING TO DO THINGS THAT I DON’T LIKE, AND I HAVE TO BE GROWN ENOUGH TO LIVE WITH IT

WE WASTE TOO MUCH TIME TELLING EVERYONE WE KNOW WHAT A TERRIBLE HUSBAND OR WIFE WE HAVE AND WE HAVE NEVER LOOKED IN THE MIRROR TO SEE WHAT KIND OF HUSBAND OR WIFE WE ARE

IF I HAVE EXPECTATIONS OF MY WIFE AND CHILDREN, I NEED TO LET THEM KNOW WHAT MY EXPECTATIONS ARE, AND WE NEED TO DISCUSS THEM TO FIND OUT IF THEY ARE REALISTIC OR IF THEY ARE SOME FANTASY THAT I HAVE MADE UP

WE NEED TO GROW UP AND STOP EXPECTING EVERYBODY IN THE WORLD TO CATER TO WHAT I WANT AND JUMP WHEN I CALL

THE BIBLE TELL US ALL HAVE SINNED AND COME SHORT OF WHAT GOD EXPECT US TO LIVE TO

WE ARE NO BETTER THAN OUR MATE OR THE OTHER PERSON WE ARE CRITICIZING

CHURCH WE NEED TO RECOGNIZE THAT IN A FAMILY, THERE A LOT OF BEHIND THE SCENE ACTIVITIES THAT TAKE PLACE AND WE NEVER TAKE THE TIME TO SAY THANK YOU

THE STORY IS TOLD OF A MAN THAT PACK PARACHUTES, AND ONE DAY HE WALKED UP TO A MAN THAT HAD BEEN USING HIS PARACHUTES AND ASKED HIM, HIS NAME, AND HE SAID PLUMB, HE SAID I THOUGH SO, I AM THE MAN THAT PACK YOUR PARACHUTES

PLUMB SAID THANK YOU, I APPRECIATE YOUR WORK, THE MAN SAID, THAT IS JUST MY JOB

CHURCH WE NEED TO SOMETIME TELL OUR SPOUSE, THANK YOU, AND HE OR SHE MIGHT SAY FOR WHAT, TELL THEM FOR ALL OF THE THINGS YOU DO

POINT THREE, YOU HAVE THE FATHER LED HOME

THE FATHER LED HOME IS A SPIRITUALLY AND PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH FAMILY MEMBERS AND THE LORD

CHURCH UNDERSTAND, YOU CAN BE A LEADER WITHOUT BEING DOMINANT

HOW DO YOU DO THAT,

YOU LEAD WITHOUT DOMINATING,

DISCIPLINE WITHOUT DESTROYING THE WILL OF THE CHILDREN

NURTURES WITHOUT SPOILING, AND BE VULNERABLE BUT FIRM

LET THE FAMILY KNOW YOUR FEELINGS, LET THE FAMILY KNOW THE DAILY PROBLEMS YOU FACE

ALL OF THIS REQUIRES COMMUNICATIONS BETWEEN THE HUSBAND AND WIFE AND THE CHILDREN

IN A FATHER LED HOME, THE FATHER BECOMES A ROLE MODEL FOR THE CHILD, AND THE CHILD LEARNS TO COUNT ON THE FATHER

UNDERSTAND THIS CHURCH, IT IS IMPORTANT THAT A MAN ;SHOW HIS MASCULINE SIDE, AND SHOW WHAT A MAN IS SUPPOSE TO BE LIKE TO THE CHILDREN

IF A MAN IS THE RIGHT KIND OF MAN, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SET THE GROUND RULES, AND FROM THAT POINT ON, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS SPEAK, AND EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT TO DO AND WHAT IS EXPECTED

AND EVEN WITH YOUNG CHILDREN, EVEN WITH A CHILD THAT YOU DO NOT KNOW IF YOU ARE A MAN, YOU CAN SAY THE RIGHT WORDS, AND CALM DOWN ANY SITUATION

THE CHURCH WILL NEVER REACH IT’S FULL POTENTIAL UNTIL THE MEN STEP UP AND BE MEN, AND THE WOMEN REALIZE THEIR POSITION IS IN SUPPORT OF THEIR HUSBANDS

A FAMILY IS TWO PEOPLE WHO HAVE ENTERED INTO WEDLOCK AND ARE LIVING TOGETHER

A HOME REFERS TO A FAMILY THAT HAPPILY LIVES TOGETHER

THE CHRISTIAN HOME IS A FAMILY WHERE THE RELATIONSHIPS ARE CHRISTIAN AND THE MEMBERS SEEK TO PLEASE GOD

THEY ARE NO LONGER TWO BUT ONE

THE MARRIAGE PATTERN IS OF ONENESS, AND TOGETHERNESS AND IT WAS ESTABLISHED IN THE FIRST UNION

ADAM AND EVE WERE TIGHTER IN THE FOLLOWING WAYS

1. THEY SINNED TOGETHER

2. THEY WERE PUNISHED TOGETHER

3. THEY WORKED TOGETHER

4. THEY HAD CHILDREN TOGETHER